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Coping with non Muslim Parent

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Q: I am a revert and have my own family and children who are all Muslims Alhamdulillah. I changed my name to a Muslim name and my mother is not only unhappy with my accepting Islam, but also with my changing my name. My parents are in India and I live in Australia. The situation just kills me that my mother is unable to accept what I have done. I stay away as she is always trying to talk to me to accept Hinduism and wants my family to do so as well. Paradise lies under the feet of the mother, but I live away to avoid any problems and confusion in my children. I am unable to deal with this. Do you have any suggestions at all please?

A:
Once you embraced Islam, you have to expect that your family will turn against you. It is not easy for them to accept this, and you too, must not hold out hope that they will accept you. This is your challenge and test. There are many others like you who find themselves in the same position. Alhamdu lillah, you have taken a bold step in the right direction. You have made the best of choices by accepting Islam. Allah Ta’ala bless you and give you steadfastness. Aameen. Don’t worry and don’t regret your decision. Make dua that Allah Ta’ala give your mother hidaayat to Islam. Masha Allah, you are like the Sahaaba of Rasoolullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), people like Abu Huraira and Sa’ad bin Abi Waqqaas (radhiyallahu anhum).

When these Sahaaba embraced Islam, their mothers were very angry for them and never accepted this. Their mothers kept on forcing them to leave Islam and to denounce The Holy Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). But they were firm on their faith. Sa’ad bin Abi Waqqas said to his mother: “Dear Mom, if Allah had to give you 99 lives, and you lose them one by one, I shall never forsake Islam or denounce Muhammad!” Then Allah Ta’ala revealed this verse of the Holy Quran: “And if the parents force you to commit shirk (kufr) then do not obey them, but treat them with kindness in this world..” (Surah Luqman, verse 15). From this verse we realize that when it comes to iemaan and kufr then we must NOT obey our parents. Then we must obey Allah. Yes, jannat lies at the feet of the mother, but that means the MUSLIMA mother, not the KAAFIRA mother. Remember this well.

I advise that that you keep ties with your mother, treat her with respect, make sabr over her complaints and nasty words, serve her as best as you can, support her in whichever way you can, and make dua that Allah Ta’ala guides her towards Islam, aameen. One day things will change. Meanwhile you will be rewarded for your struggle in a very big way. Allah Ta’ala make matters easy for you and grant you firmness on Iemaan and grant your mother guidance to Iemaan, aameen

Mufti Siraj Desai

Last Updated on Saturday, 07 May 2016 12:39

Hiding IP Address

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Q: Is it permissible according to Islamic shariah to use Virtual Private Network and to hide your ip for work related things? I mean not for any kind of illegal activities such as hacking, spying or anything bad or haram? Because I need to use VPN services for my work.

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: If the VPN service is used to protect one’s personal information or one’s valid Islamic rights and not for spying or hacking, then it is totally permissible to use this, even if there are state laws prohibiting this. Islam has given the individual the right to protect his or her personal information, property, and rights from others in any lawful way possible. Rasoolullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Seek help in the fulfilment of your needs through concealment (privacy)” (Jaamiúl-Hadeeth from Tabarani and others). The hadith prohibits spying and  reading the personal letters of others. Rasoolullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) also prohibited a ruler from spying on his subjects unnecessarily.

Allah Ta’ala knows best

Mufti Siraj Desai

Changing Mosque Qibla

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Q: We have come to know that the qiblah in our masjid is not completely precise. Our qiblah is at the moment at 1 degree north where as the precise qiblah is at 12 degrees north.

We are considering doing some maintenance work in the masjid and we are thinking of changing the carpet in the masjid.

Our question is should we reset the carpet to the precise point (12 degrees) or will it be permissible for us to keep it at its current qiblah direction, keeping in mind that if we reset the musallahs to the precise direction we will loose approximately 20 musallahs in the masjid.

A:
The Jurists and Scholars of Fiqh have mentioned that a discrepancy of 15 to 20 degrees in the Qiblah is acceptable and will not invalidate the salaah. In your case, the discrepancy is not so major, hence I advise to leave the Qiblah as it is and save the space inside the Musjid.

Allah Ta’ala knows best

Mufti Siraj Desai

Greeting before Salaah

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Q: There's one person in the Musjid before Salah he makes Salaam to everyone then he sits in his place. Is this permissible or would this be considered Bid'at (an innovation)?

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It is not a sunnah to make salaam to people when entering the musjid for namaaz. Besides if people are making salaah then this constitutes a disturbance. If this is done regularly and consistently then it means the person is considering this a necessary practice, meanwhile it is not even a sunnah; hence, it will be regarded as a bid’ah.

Allah knows best

Mufti Siraj Desai

Greeting for the Deceased

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Q: When I cross a graveyard I say the prescribed Salaam (greeting) but someone told me that when you cross a graveyard where Muslims are not buried you aren't supposed to say anything. Is this true? Is there any Hadith about this?

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Salaam is made to Muslim inhabitants of the graves and not to non Muslims. So it should not be read when crossing a non Muslim grave/graveyard.

In the du'aa is Salaam and asking Allah to grant Maghfirat (forgiveness) to the deceased people. Maghfirat is not asked for on behalf of non Muslims.

Moulana Yusuf Laher

Musjid Collections

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Q: As a Mutawalli of a Musallah of my area, our committee has decided to collect donations via having young boys walk around in the masjid on jummah day with a collection box. I would like your assistance in guiding us in making the right decision and guidance in this regard.

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It is makrooh and not advisable to collect funds like this in the musjid for the following reasons:

1. It disrupts the musallees if some of them are making salaah.
2. If the lecture is on then it distracts the attention of both the speaker and the audience.
3. If this is done when khutba has commenced then of course, it is totally haraam.
4. Indirectly musallees are being compelled to contribute to the musjid, because one might feel embarrassed to let the box go pass without dropping anything into it when others are doing so. Then the intention is not for Allah but just to avoid embarrassment in the eyes of others.
5. One might feel embarrassed to drop a small amount in the box, even if a bigger amount is not affordable.

All this is contrary to the spirit of contributing to the cause of Allah Ta’ala.

I would advise to have a fixed collection box somewhere at the back of the musjid, as most of the masaajid have. Then whoever contributes will be doing so willingly and sincerely.

Allah knows best

Mufti Siraj Desai
Darul-Uloom Abubakr

Writing on the Body

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Q: Is writing on the hand/body sinful?

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If writing or making marks on the hand or body resembles tattoos, then that is not permissible, although it won’t be as haraam and severe as actual tattoos. But it is still sinful because it resembles a haraam act and there is no valid reason for doing so. If one writes on the hand to make a note of something when no paper is available, then that is totally permissible. But this will apply to the hand, like writing down someone’s phone number. It won’t apply to other parts of the body for obvious reasons.

Using stick on tattoos is also not permissible for the above reason, and also that Shariah prohibits disfiguring of the body parts in any way.

Allah Ta’ala knows best

Mufti Siraj Desai
Darul-Uloom Abubakr

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