Marriage

Marriage in Order of Birth

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Q: I'm 23 years old this year. I am engaged to a man arranged by my parents over a year ago. Until now, my nikah (marriage) is getting very delay as my parents want my sister to marry first. She isn't engaged yet. My fiance's family eagerly wants us to marry first. I do understand my family situation, but my fiance and I want to get married soon to avoid any unnecessary problems. Do I need to wait for my sister until she gets marry? In Islam does marriage need to be according to the siblings' sequence? if not, how to keep myself to be patience?

A:
You do not need to wait for your sister to marry. You can get married before her, it is permissible. Get some elders in your family to speak to your parents and make them understand. Or get the Aalim in your area to speak to them.
May Allah Ta'aala make it easy for you, Aameen.

Moulana Yusuf Laher

Holiday after Marriage

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Q: After a person's nikah (marriage) is done but not ruksati (wife going to stay with the husband) is the husband allowed to take the wife on holiday? After the nikah is done but not the ruksati is the husband allowed to meet the wife by her self or go to her house and meet her?

A:
After the Nikah is done the husband and wife are Halaal for each other and now there are no barriers. He can take her on holiday, meet her, go to her house, etc. To avoid problems, why don't they get the Rukhsati over with?

Moulana Yusuf Laher

Spouses in Paradise

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Q: I would like to know if the men have their wives and also hoorul ain as their partners in jannah (paradise) and what partners do women who are unmarried or divorced or widowed get? Do women have a choice of a partner in jannah? Is it permissible to desire or make dua to be partnered with any Prophet or sahabah in jannah?

A:
Yes, the man will have his wife and Hoors in Jannah. The wife will be the queen.

Such Du'aa should not be made (in my opinion) because they are much higher than us. Allah Ta'aala knows best.

HUSBANDS AND WIVES IN JANNAH:

SPINSTER
A woman who never married in this world will be given a choice in the hereafter. She will choose any Jannati of her choice and her Nikah will be made to him. If she does not choose anyone, a male will be created from the Hoor and her Nikah will be made to this created male.

WOMAN WITH MORE THAN ONE HUSBAND
There are two opinions regarding this woman

1. She will be with the last husband.
2. She will choose one from her husbands.

Both these opinions are backed by proof. Those who say that she will be with the last husband are supported by the narration of Sayyidina Abu Dardaa' (Radhiyallaahu Anhu) that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said that in the hereafter a woman will be with her last husband. Thereafter Sayyidina Abu Dardaa' tells Sayyidah Ummi Dardaa' not to marry someone else after him because he wants her to also be his wife in the hereafter. She narrated this when Sayyidina Mu'aawiyah (Radhiyallaahu Anhu) proposed to her (and she refused to marry Sayyidina Mu'aawiyah).

Those who say that she will be given a choice are backed by the narration of Sayyidah Ummi Habeebah (Radhiyallaahu Anhaa), wife of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi wa Sallam). She asked Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi wa Sallam) that some women had two husbands so with whom will she be in the hereafter? He answered: she will be given a choice, but she will choose the one who adopted a better character towards her.

MAN WITH MORE THAN ONE WIFE
A man with more than one wife will have all his wives in the hereafter.

(Taken from Fataawa Mahmoodiyah V3 P431/433)

Moulana Yusuf Laher

Rights of a Suitor

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Q: What are the rights of a suitor when he/she approaches a potential partner with a proposal for marriage?

A:
The potential bride is allowed to only expose her face and hands in the presence of the potential groom. He is only allowed to see that much. The rest of her body should be covered. There should be a Mahram present with her when he views her. It is forbidden for two strangers to be alone, even for the purpose of marriage. (Raddul Muhtaar V26 P 392,398 & 400)

Moulana Yusuf Laher

Day for Marriage

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Q: Is it valid and permitted to do nikaah (marriage) from the 1st of the Islamic month of Zul-Hajj?

A:
Any day is good for Nikah. To believe that certain days are not good for nikah, is merely superstition. Nikah is valid on any day.

Moulana Yusuf Laher

Additional Wife and Informing

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Q: When a husband marries an additional wife is it compulsory for him to inform the wives of each other?

A:
If he does not inform them it does not affect the validity of either marriage, but it is his moral obligation to inform them. If he does not, it can lead to complications later, e.g. if he dies then there can be a dispute with regard to the inheritance, etc.

Moulana Yusuf Laher

Validity of Marriage

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Q: A girl gets married (nikah) secretly with witnesses (2 girls and one boy) but we don't even know if the boy is baalig (mature) or not. Is the marriage valid in this case?

A:
For a Nikah to be valid:

Both boy and girl must be Baaligh and sane. The girl must grant her permission to get her married to that particular boy. The boy must accept. At least two witnesses should be present. The two witnesses should also hear the declaration and the acceptance. The witnesses should be two males or one male and two females.

Moulana Yusuf Laher

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