Extent of Floods in Time of Nooh alaihis salaam

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Q: During the time of Prophet Nooh (Noah) alayhis salaam did the floods affect the the entire world or only certain areas?

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There are both opinions. The stronger opinion is that it affected certain areas. (Qisasul Qur'aan V1 P63/64).

Allah Ta'aala knows best.

Moulana Yusuf Laher

Dealing with Co-wife

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Q: My husband has told me he wants a second wife. His reasons being that he needs somebody business minded to help him in the business, as I am not. He also wants more children, as I have had a tubal ligation done after my 3rd child because of medical reasons. He says he wants to do everything Islamically. But I somehow do not believe him. We are married now for 11 years, Alhamdulillah. I do everything a housewife and mother supposed to do for their family. I do everything my husband asks me to do. I look after my family well Alhamdulillah. He asked me 1st to help him out in the business. I am trying,but it is difficult to run a house, cook, clean, see to the children, etc. and help in the business. He says I am not a person of authority and he needs somebody like that to be in his business, and that's why he wants a 2nd wife. Please help me to understand if his reasons are allowed in Islam. And I know that islam allows second wives, but how do I accept somebody else?

A:
Although it is correct that a man does not require permission from the first wife to marry another, it is his moral obligation to inform her and his kids. The second wife and kids also inherit from the deceased husband just as the first wife and kids. Not knowing about the second family can cause confusion and denial at such a time and embarrassment, especially for the second wife and kids.

Before explaining the situation to the first wife, the man has to ascertain whether he is ready for a second marriage. Having a second wife is a great financial responsibility and there are Islamic dictates too that have to be fulfilled.

He has to compulsorily share the nights equally between the two homes unless one of the wives gives up this right. Even if she gives up this right, she still has the right to rescind her decision whenever she wishes.

If she agrees to forego this right even before marrying her, she can rescind her decision after marriage and the husband will have to oblige, notwithstanding the understanding and agreement before marriage. Sharing the nights is a right given by Shari'ah and she can call on it whenever she wants and it has to be fulfilled.

There has to be fairness in the treatment of the wives. It is essential that the person who wishes to take a second wife possesses Taqwa and is conscious of his Islamic duties. If he does not have Taqwa and is negligent of his Deen, he will bring more sin and harm upon himself because of the second marriage and will invite the displeasure and curses of both families. It is only Taqwa that will push him to fulfil their rights. It is not advisable for a person devoid of Taqwa to take a second wife.

If the criteria are found in the husband and he wishes to proceed in taking a second wife, the first wife should be explained the following:

In the Qur'aan Allah Ta'aala has in His infinite knowledge and wisdom, granted the male permission of keeping more than one wife.

The word Islam means 'total submission' to the laws of Allah. The complete Shari'ah must be wholeheartedly and unequivocally accepted to qualify as a true Muslim. An integral part of the Shari'ah is the permissibility of a man taking more than one wife.

By marrying the other lady and thereby making her Halaal for himself, he has saved himself from sin, and this is commendable. These words will only have an effect on the first wife if the husband is a practicing Muslim. He should not use the Shari'ah to justify a second marriage whereas he is negligent in all other Islamic duties. 

She should resign herself to the fact that the other lady was written in his Taqdeer and no one could have prevented that and should not let this bother her. The husband must ensure her that he will fulfil her rights without decreasing any of the previous arrangements with the exception of time allocation.

It is natural for the first wife to become envious and annoyed but the husband should console and reassure her with exemplary character, forbearance and kindness. In due time, she will settle and become accustomed to the new setup.

May Allah Ta'aala grant ease, Aameen.

Moulana Yusuf Laher

Last Updated on Thursday, 19 March 2015 16:28

Definition of Beating

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Q: Please explain the term beat lightly in regards to wife from Quran and hadith.

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The hadith states that when the wife disobeys her husband then he can beat her by making a knot on the edge of his shawl and then tapping her lightly with this part of the shawl. But violent or severe beating is haraam and not allowed. A wife who disobeys her husband for no valid reason is cursed by Almighty Allah, and if she dies without taubah and without pleasing her husband, she will be deprived of Allah’s Mercy on the Day of Judgment.

Mufti Siraj Desai

Porn and Fluid Discharge

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Q: Sometimes when I watch pornography little white fluid comes out from my penis. Can I make prayer without bath?

A:
That fluid is called Mazi. Mazi is colourless and sticky, not white. It breaks Wudhu but not Ghusl. Wash the area, change or wash the clothes, make wudhu and Salaah.

For the sake of Allah, please stop watching porn. It is extremely harmful.
May Allah Ta'aala protect you, Aameen.

Moulana Yusuf Laher

Physical and Mental Abuse

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Q: Is it right for a husband to abuse his wife mentally and physically? I'm married for 11 years and I'm a revert to Islam. In my first year of marriage my husband had an affair and would practically torture me for the other women. After that he left her and everything was fine. I've supported him morally but my husband doesn't appreciate anything I do. He beats me and swears me in front of my kids although my kids tell him to stop he swears them as well.Is this Islam? I've accepted Islam from the day my husband asked me to marry him but I didn't expect this to happen.

A:
Do not confuse a Muslim's personal actions with Islam. You are well aware that Islam totally condemns such actions. His actions are completely against the teachings of Islam. Islam never ever condones such cowardice and vile actions. He needs to sort himself out by linking to a pious scholar and rectifying his ways. Ask the Islamic scholars in your area to speak to him and make him realise the evil of such actions. If he does not change, seek forgiveness and improve his ways, he will face Allah with a very heavy burden.

May Allah Ta'aala grant realization, Aameen.

Moulana Yusuf Laher

Qasr on Umrah

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Q: I will be on Umrah for 10 days from South Africa. Will I have to make Qasr (shorten Salaah)?

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Yes you will make Qasr.

Moulana Yusuf Laher

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